Sunday, November 30, 2008

Love Tips: Trust in Relationships

Trust is the basis of all human relationships. Trust can be thought of as a thermometer that can measure the positive and negative nature of a relationship. The more positive one feels about a person, the higher the trust level associated with him/her.

There are many different trust levels at which we may trust others. We trust most people enough to walk around freely without expecting all the neighbors to start shooting at us. Those persons who cannot trust others at even this remote level have great difficulty functioning in the world.

However, at a more personal level, trusting your partner with your fears, dreams, and feelings is sometimes difficult. Just as when we were infants, our trust in others builds as we learn through experience that others will be accepting of us. The more we are exposed to positive trust experiences, the more trust in others will develop.

The building of a trusting attitude goes hand-in-hand with the development of positive self-esteem.

When we learn to trust others with our secrets, our fears, and our uniqueness. There is a period of time in every relationship when we peel off layers of protection in response to the growing warm feelings we share. As we shed our protective coats, we become more vulnerable to hurt or betrayal, but we also have the potential of building trusting relationships in which the partners can share deep feelings and grow as individuals.

In most relationships there are periods of pulling away and growing closer. These times may require us to readjust our protective layers or to pause in the process of shedding to make our needs for trusting less vulnerable. During these periods we learn about ourselves, particularly those areas about which we are most sensitive. Feelings of insecurity often indicate areas of our personal lives in which trust has been betrayed or about which we feel negatively. Taking the risk to trust sharing feelings about painful issues is often scary, but with big risks come big gains¡ªfor you and your partner.

When trust is absent, there are deep and hidden animosities. Respect is lost and our relationship is compromised as our energies go into manipulation and protection rather than working together towards a shared vision.

Trust is having the confidence in your judgment to trust yourself to trust your partner. Before you day "I Do," you need to ask yourself, do I trust my intended?

As adults, we learn to trust through observation, experience and self-awareness. Our partners earn our trust by exhibiting trust worthy behaviors and communications. Their behaviors are consistent with their "talk" and you have learned you can place your confidence in him/her.

It takes time to develop trust in someone, especially for people who have been hurt before. Who do you trust? What are the characteristics that support that trust? If the relationship is important to you what are the small steps you can do to restore betrayed trust?

Trust is central for a loving, honest and respectful relationship. Both you and your fianc¨¦ should trust each other to remain loyal, be honest, communicate feelings, thoughts and opinions openly and genuinely, value each other as human beings and not objects to be used and manipulated.

When you trust your partner, you will be protected. You know you won't be hurt, betrayed, or ridiculed. You can let down your guard and really be yourself with your partner, allowing a feeling of complete security to flow through the relationship. You don't need to censor or edit your conversations, or alter your behavior (as long as your words and behavior are kind and courteous). You can open your heart to the other person. And, as I mentioned earlier, this deep trust and mutual vulnerability forms the very foundation of lasting and loving relationships.


Rev. Saundra L. Washington, D.D.

Thursday, November 27, 2008

Games for Mac

Whenever I am bored I used to think of some things to keep me busy. When I was a child I use to play games outdoors, it may be a sport or just a simple kid’s game. Well that was before, now I have changed a lot. Now that I am considered a young adult I became a less socialized person somehow close to being an antisocial person. But of course I balance everything so I go to party occasionally. Going back to being home most of the time, whenever I feel bored as I have said, I want to keep my self busy so since I am fond of playing games, I try to play different types of games may it be a kiddy game or a sporty game or a simple card game like solitaire. Solitaire is a very popular game ever since I was a kid. If you are thinking of where to download a Mac solitaire, then you can try to download at the website, In the website, you can download mac games of different kinds. and not only that, If you are planning to buy a new iPHONE or if you already have one, then good news for you, since this website also offers iPHONE games that you can download. Visit the site and download your favorite games.

Glass Frames Online

· I started wearing eyeglasses when I was in my 5th grade and at first I find it really cool having four eyes. Almost every year I change my glass frames because I want to be in the latest trend. But now that I am a College student, I failed to do the usual thing that I do since I don’t have time to go out in malls or other places. So I tried to look for some glass frames online. The popular online eyeglasses shop offers $ 8 complete Rx Eyeglasses. It also offers different holiday glass frames from Zenni Optical. It has different elegant styles may it be titanium or others. Try to look for some of the frames in their site.

Friday, November 21, 2008

Dream Adventure

Yesterday, we had our discussion on our sociology class and our teacher mentioned different cultures through out the world. I am really amazed on how different each culture is like the Chinese culture that has different ideas of the dragons, yin and yang and feng shuis. The different beliefs and rituals of the Africans during the circumcision of a young boy and the different ideas and beliefs of the Europeans are very interesting to know. My teacher talked about these different cultures and during that lecture I was dreaming of something I have ever dreamed of ever since I was a little kid. As my teacher talks about the culture and places of Europe, my mind wandered to the same places my teacher is talking about. When my teacher talked about the different places in Europe, I imagined that I was in Europe also. I dreamed of staying in a Hotel Naples while I’m in Naples, Italy. After that, I also dreamed of staying in a Hotel Florence while I was in Florence, Italy. And as my teacher discussed different places I’ve dreamed of the places he mentioned. I dreamed of staying in a hotel and bed breakfast paris after visiting the Eiffel Tower. It was such a good dream until I woke up as the bell rang.

Wednesday, November 19, 2008

Trip to Dreamland

I really love to travel to different places like Asia, America and most especially Europe. I love to go to my dream country which is France. I chose it as my dream country because it has lots of beautiful places that I can visit to like the Eiffel Tower in Paris and stay in a hotel paris. The assurance vie is inevitable but it is worth it. All for the glory of traveling to such a place is my dream.

Sunday, November 16, 2008

When we are in need of Urgent Cash...

It is really difficult to have emergencies especially when it is about health. I remember my grandfather that was rushed to the hospital due to some complications and was admitted in the ICU for several days. We are not that rich that's why my mom is being problematic on how to pay the bills. My grandfather's bills was so expensive that at first my mom doesn't know what to do. Good thing there's payday loans that would assist your financial needs when  you are in this kind of trouble. My mom now always uses this method whenever she needs urgent money. Life these days are really hard, good thing we have such thing as payday loans theses days.

Friday, November 14, 2008

Money and Courting

You like a girl, yes of course.. then you court her... She seems to be interested, so she said "yes" when you asked her out for a date. We can never change the fact that we uses money just to please the person that we like. Of course this doesn't include rich guys, I'm talking about normal persons. Those who work hard for a living, those who save money just to have something to eat, something to pay on bills. We are actually using money in these forms: dating, buying her a drink, buying new outfits just to look good, when you accidentally been together while in a commute on your way home or on way to work of course you'll treat her fair in a bus for example, buying flowers, buying gifts and etc.Until you realized that you are already short of money. You may end up having a cash advance which is a good idea if you really need money. But cash advance are for emergency purposes like health emergencies, paying bills, etc. So if you are saving but you really want a girl, just be yourself, have good conversations, just be friendly and create some humor, show that your a decent person and have the characteristics that every girl wants. She will surely be close and be attracted to you.

Sunday, November 2, 2008

EyeGlasses from Zenni

I have astigmatism that's why I wear glasses, but my glasses is a bit old already especially the frames, they are full of scratches. I'm planning to buy a new one but I want a not so expensive stuff. I tried to find great eyeglasses for less online and I find Zenni Optical. This is right for me because there are variable dimension frames from Zenni to choose from. And one good thing is that Zenni Optical was on Fox News! - watch the news here - Zenni on Fox

EyeGlasses are really affordable, you can buy one at 8$!

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