Having a relationship with a Seaman

I started dating this man 8 months ago. He is a seaman. Knowing what kind of job he's into, this did not stop me from liking him. He was very kind and sweet. He was my best friend's cousin and they are giving a good word on this guy. We already saw each other before way back when I was in high school but had other interests and he did not pursue me since he thought I was snobbish. As we met again today, there was a spark! We dated for about a month and already felt at ease with each other. This is a good man, so I gave him a chance. 2 months ago he needed to get off and needed to be back at work. I know this would be tough. I was always worried at first especially when we are losing communication for few days but as his father said. It's really like that. You can't have 100% signal every time when you are in the middle of the sea.

I just kept myself busy and soon I was able to adjust. I'm just looking forward each day to be able to speak with him. I always make myself busy and I'm glad it works. It's sad to read some posts on facebook saying seaman's partners that was left are cheating. I can't imagine myself doing that. If you know that you love this person, there is no reason for you to look for someone else. All you need is to wait and be patient and learn to enjoy life on your own ways. Believe that you are meant to be and your relationship will definitely work.

Jealousy - Is it Normal?

Jealousy in relationships is "normal" and "vital". Without it, relationship remains immature and shallow. "Healthy jealousy" is a concerned, protective feeling that surrounds both parties. It could support and guard a relationship from intruders who might "sabotage" or do harm on your relationship. Some might express it too much, could be jealous of little things, but such can be eased by understanding, assurance, affection and honesty - or just plain expression of love...

If a relationship has those little twinges of jealousy now and then, it just means you both really care, and hope you don't ever lose one another, it just depends on how you handle it.

   

When you're left Hanging... #word

When you're left hanging in a relationship...
When he told you he needs time for himself.. stressed out... wants time and space (usual jerks)

Never expect a happy ending... expect the worst...

Live your life... This is the best time to find yourself as well... Know your worth, if he shows he doesn't care, then he probably don't. Stay happy, go out... do things you don't usually do.. explore!

Start moving on... coz' he probably is... moving on... and that's, without you...

Peace out. :)

Dating Tips: 10 Signs He's Not 'the One'

from YourTango.com

wondering if he's the one??? I've seen an article that might guide you on your thoughts. Cheers!

1. You have a list of things he needs to stop doing/saying/wearing if he wants your relationship to work. If you're fixating on his flaws, he's either not the one you want or you're not ready for a serious relationship. Cutting him loose allows you time to grow and gives you the opportunity to meet a guy whose flaws you can embrace -- or at least accept.

2. You don't trust him. A small dose of jealousy can be healthy, but if you're hacking into his email account, and going berserk when he goes out without you, something's wrong. If there's something about him that truly warrants your distrust, then perhaps he's not the right one for you.

3. You avoid conflict at any cost. Fighting is healthy. And, when done right (in the non-accusatory, rational sort of way), it can be a great way to air grievances, fix problems in your relationship, and come to a deeper understanding of each other. Ignoring problems is not the same as having no problems at all... even if it looks that way.

4. When you're sad, you don't turn to him for comfort. When you're a giant ball of tears and snot, do you lock yourself into the bathroom so he can't see you at your worst? If you're worried about scaring him away, one of you isn't ready for total commitment. Mr. Right should make you smile through your tears and be a calming, not stressful, presence.

5. One of you is struggling with an addiction. He's sweet. He's exciting. He loves you very much. But he loves his alcohol habit or his weekly gambling fix more. Don't fool yourself into thinking that you can change him or that your relationship will be strong enough to withstand the heartache that addiction will inevitably bring. An addict may be able to change, but he'll do so on his own terms.

6. You can't really imagine him as the father of your children. Ask yourself: Would he make a great parent? Is he financially responsible? Would he be an equal partner in your future together? If you have doubts, he's probably not the one.

7. Your long-term, non-negotiable goals in life are incompatible. You want kids; he doesn't. You go to church every week; he's an atheist. He lives in the country and doesn't want to move; you can't imagine ever leaving the city. Superficial differences can be overcome, but differences in basic values are harder to smooth over. Ask yourself: "Would I be willing to compromise on this?" If the answer is absolutely not, you may not be right for each other.

8. You don't respect each other. He puts you down in front of your friends and complains about you to his parents. You roll your eyes when he talks because there's just something about him that embarrasses you. A relationship without respect can't sustain itself.

9. You're not attracted to him. Physical intimacy is a hugely important component of a romantic relationship. If he doesn't do it for you, he's probably not your best long-term match.

10. On paper he seems great, but you have this strange feeling... Don't ignore your gut. You may get along on a superficial level, but if your instincts are telling you he's not the one for you, listen. That little voice inside your head does not lie.

Love Tips: A Quote-True or Not True???

Those GREATLY HURT by their greatest LOVE end up being PLAYERS....

this is one quote that I always heard from other people.. is it really true???

as for me... it really depends on the your characteristic as a person...

and there are many ways on which a person could turn out after being hurt so badly...

for me it's just being BITTER or BETTER.....

Bitter that you may not want to love anymore.. or just end up flinging up so much people or what we call being a player...

Better in a way that you realize that you must always be prepared in what ever outcome of any future relationships that you could possibly have... Learn from your mistakes and still continue to love....

So what do you think???

Love Tips: An Advice from a Friend of mine

I've been through a four year relationship and had a harsh break up. It's been more than a year and I just thought I had moved on. Every time a guy shows some feeling for me, I myself avoids them and say that I could just offer friendship to them. i just realize that I'm being unfair on them and to myself also. I didn't give a chance to show what they are and me, i don't give myself a chance to try again and move on totally.

Then this guy came, which I don't like at first but sooner, there is something on him that I like and we get along too easily. We became good friends. Sooner and later, i realized that I'm starting to like this guy, I know he definitely likes me too. He always says that and he really shows his feelings towards me. A bit later he started saying that he loves me already, and wants us to be in a relationship. We definitely had a mutual understanding at that moment but of course, I still didn't say YES to him. So we're not on a relationship at the moment.

Sometime when we are together, he hugged me and told me he loves me so many times. My chest feels heavy, really wants to burst out. Coz' I wanted to say I love you too. But in my head i'm just so afraid to enter in a relationship again. I end up crying to him. And never expressed my true feelings for him.

I told a friend who knows about us what just had happened. She told me not to be afraid loving again. There are so many guys, different guys and you cannot control the fact of them liking you. She told me not to be afraid to love again and to be hurt again, because to be hurt is a great part of loving someone.

We love, and sometimes, we became hurt.. expect those things... Rather that to never be loved and not to love at all...

Love Tips: Trust in Relationships

Trust is the basis of all human relationships. Trust can be thought of as a thermometer that can measure the positive and negative nature of a relationship. The more positive one feels about a person, the higher the trust level associated with him/her.

There are many different trust levels at which we may trust others. We trust most people enough to walk around freely without expecting all the neighbors to start shooting at us. Those persons who cannot trust others at even this remote level have great difficulty functioning in the world.

However, at a more personal level, trusting your partner with your fears, dreams, and feelings is sometimes difficult. Just as when we were infants, our trust in others builds as we learn through experience that others will be accepting of us. The more we are exposed to positive trust experiences, the more trust in others will develop.

The building of a trusting attitude goes hand-in-hand with the development of positive self-esteem.

When we learn to trust others with our secrets, our fears, and our uniqueness. There is a period of time in every relationship when we peel off layers of protection in response to the growing warm feelings we share. As we shed our protective coats, we become more vulnerable to hurt or betrayal, but we also have the potential of building trusting relationships in which the partners can share deep feelings and grow as individuals.

In most relationships there are periods of pulling away and growing closer. These times may require us to readjust our protective layers or to pause in the process of shedding to make our needs for trusting less vulnerable. During these periods we learn about ourselves, particularly those areas about which we are most sensitive. Feelings of insecurity often indicate areas of our personal lives in which trust has been betrayed or about which we feel negatively. Taking the risk to trust sharing feelings about painful issues is often scary, but with big risks come big gains¡ªfor you and your partner.

When trust is absent, there are deep and hidden animosities. Respect is lost and our relationship is compromised as our energies go into manipulation and protection rather than working together towards a shared vision.

Trust is having the confidence in your judgment to trust yourself to trust your partner. Before you day "I Do," you need to ask yourself, do I trust my intended?

As adults, we learn to trust through observation, experience and self-awareness. Our partners earn our trust by exhibiting trust worthy behaviors and communications. Their behaviors are consistent with their "talk" and you have learned you can place your confidence in him/her.

It takes time to develop trust in someone, especially for people who have been hurt before. Who do you trust? What are the characteristics that support that trust? If the relationship is important to you what are the small steps you can do to restore betrayed trust?

Trust is central for a loving, honest and respectful relationship. Both you and your fianc¨¦ should trust each other to remain loyal, be honest, communicate feelings, thoughts and opinions openly and genuinely, value each other as human beings and not objects to be used and manipulated.

When you trust your partner, you will be protected. You know you won't be hurt, betrayed, or ridiculed. You can let down your guard and really be yourself with your partner, allowing a feeling of complete security to flow through the relationship. You don't need to censor or edit your conversations, or alter your behavior (as long as your words and behavior are kind and courteous). You can open your heart to the other person. And, as I mentioned earlier, this deep trust and mutual vulnerability forms the very foundation of lasting and loving relationships.

 

Rev. Saundra L. Washington, D.D.

Money and Courting

You like a girl, yes of course.. then you court her... She seems to be interested, so she said "yes" when you asked her out for a date. We can never change the fact that we uses money just to please the person that we like. Of course this doesn't include rich guys, I'm talking about normal persons. Those who work hard for a living, those who save money just to have something to eat, something to pay on bills. We are actually using money in these forms: dating, buying her a drink, buying new outfits just to look good, when you accidentally been together while in a commute on your way home or on way to work of course you'll treat her fair in a bus for example, buying flowers, buying gifts and etc.Until you realized that you are already short of money. You may end up having a cash advance which is a good idea if you really need money. But cash advance are for emergency purposes like health emergencies, paying bills, etc. So if you are saving but you really want a girl, just be yourself, have good conversations, just be friendly and create some humor, show that your a decent person and have the characteristics that every girl wants. She will surely be close and be attracted to you.

Love Tips: Long Distance Relationships

 

Love tips about Long Distance Relationships by Samantha Daniels, if you are in this kind of relationship then this video clip could be helpful for you. Enjoy!

Love Tips - Long Distance Relationships

Being in a long distance relationship as we all know is very hard. Your being far away from your loved one really tests your love for each other. No matter how you love each other, being too far away will give your relationship a risk, and worst if you've been away for a very long time. It's been said that women in terms of relationships are more serious than man. Women, when indulged in a long distance relationship is more trustworthy or turns out to be more loyal than men. I'm not saying that all men are like that. (Don't frown man, meow!)

Anyways, even if you love each other so much, and both parties are loyal and trustworthy, you cannot really tell how long can you love each other at that specific situation. Let us say 4-5 years has passed, is your love still stronger than ever if you are still away from each other by this time? It is better that you accept the fact that your relationship is not that healthy than before, that anytime you could have problems and may end up in break up. *Sad.. Love tips from emjeiSolo.

Is it Love or Infatuation

Love or Infatuation

"You can tell that it's infatuation when you think that he's as sexy as Paul Newman, as athletic as Pete Rose, as selfless and dedicated as Ralph Nader, as smart as John Kenneth Galbraith and as funny as Don Rickles. You can be reasonably sure that it's love when you realize he's actually about as sexy as Don Rickles, as athletic as Ralph Nader, as smart as Pete Rose, as funny as John Kenneth Galbraith and doesn't resemble Paul Newman in any way--but you'll stick with him anyway." -Judith Viorst

(1) Do I treat the other person as a person or a thing?
If you go out with him/her because he/she is good looking (a "prize" to be with) or a way out (a ticket to the movies), that isn't love.

(2) Would you chose to spend the evening alone with him/her if there were no kissing, no touching, and no sex?
If not, it isn't love.

(3) Are the two of you at ease and as happy alone as you are with friends?
If you need other friends around to have a good time, it isn't love.

(4) Do you get along?
If you fight and make up a lot, get hurt and jealous, tease and criticize one another, better be careful, it may not be love.

(5) Are you still interested in dating or secretly "messing around" with others?
If so, you aren't in love.

(6) Can you be totally honest and open?
If either or both of you are selfish, insincere, feel confined, or unable to express feelings, be cautious.

(7) Are you realistic?
You should be able to admit possible future problems. If others (besides a parent) offend you by saying they are surprised you are still together, that you two seem so different, that they have doubts about your choice, better take a good look at this relationship.

(8) Is either of you much more of a taker than a giver?
If so, no matter how well you like that situation now, it may not last.

(9) Do you think of the partner as being a part of your whole life?
If so, and these dreams seem good, that is an indication of love.


Is it love or infatuation or loneliness or friendship?

-links2love.com

How to Find Your Perfect Match - Tips

Had difficulty finding your perfect match? these are few tips that may serve as guide for you... :)

• Make sure you're never being fake. If you hate cats, and a really hot guy/girl likes them, don't say that you do too, because then you will never find the perfect one.


• Always say what's on your mind, even if it is completely random. They might just be attracted to a weirdo.


• If you are uncomfortable, don't go on a date. If this is a bad time, like if someone just died, don't go anywhere. You'll only be depressed on your date.


• Dress with clothing you would normally wear. Be yourself.

Some Warnings:
Some people are manipulative, and you can tell. Beware of these men/women. They may make you feel badly about yourself if you let them be.

-wikihow.com

How to Find Your Perfect Match - Steps

Looking for a perfect match?? here are few steps that you may want to consider:

Be aware of the things you constantly do, and try to find someone who does a lot
of the same things as you.

Think about what you want in a man/woman.

Make mistakes, because mistakes make you learn who you really are.

Don't be afraid to show how you feel. Personality will attract the one who is
perfect for you.

Be flirtatious and look your best, because if you feel
pretty you usually look it too.

Get out there and start dating. Don't worry if you don't find 'the one' at first.

-wikihow.com

Love vs. Lust

Love or Lust??? The following below are definitions of each. How would you really know if you feel love towards a person or it is just lust....? All I know is that most commonly, break ups after a short term relationship is due to misunderstanding of feelings, had misunderstood love to lust. One important thoughts before entering into a relationship is making sure that it is love you are feeling towards him/her, its the whole of the person you love and not just his or her outer aspects.

LOVE

• To have strong feelings of affection for another adult and be romantically and sexually attracted to them

• Warm attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion

• Unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another

LUST

• An overwhelming desire or craving: a lust for power

• Usually intense or unbridled sexual desire

• Intense eagerness or enthusiasm

Maintaining a Long Distance Relationship - 1

I've been through a long distance relationship before.. Thought I would be able to handle it well and make our relationship last but sadly, it didn't work out. How do we maintain a Long distance relationship? I've seen some tips to share with you guys...

Establish some ground rules: Get everything in the open, so that there are no sneaky feelings between you both. Talk about whether you can see other people romantically, how often you'd like to speak to each other, and if there are special occasions where the two of you must see each other in person.

Send snail mails: It is an inexpensive way to stay in touch. The recipient can keep the letter and read it any time they miss you and need a hug. Of course, you can send more than letters. You could send a taped message of love, or a CD that alternates between your message and some of your beloved's favourite songs, or even a blank jigsaw puzzle that you write on and send a few pieces at a time.

Arrange to watch a TV program together: It's a unique way to connect. That way, you can experience the enjoyment simultaneously, even though you're miles apart. And later on, call each other and discuss.

Maintaining a Long Distance Relationship - 2

Don't fight over small problems: Because you can't talk as often as you like, everything becomes magnified. Therefore, make a decision that you won't fight over small problems like throwing a tantrum because your partner promised to call at a certain time, and he or she couldn't. You would have been waiting for that call, but something could have cropped up at their end. All couples fight on this issue. But when you are in an long distance relationship, save the fighting for the really important issues.

Accept uncertainty: When you do see each other again, things might initially tense and awkward. You may wonder, "Do I still love him?" or "Is this relationship still worthwhile?" Those thoughts are normal. They'll pass. And if they don't, you should consider breaking-up.

If there are problems, tell them: If you see the relationship breaking apart, don't keep it from the other person. Tell them. Don't leave that kind of message on an answering machine or throw it in an e-mail. Get the other person on the phone. They deserve it.

Plan a surprise trip: At times, phone and e-mail won't cut it. The best thing to do is see your loved one in person. Just go, and everything will be all right. And even if it isn't, you won't be accused of taking the easy way out.

Tips for Successful Online Relationships

Finding a person online that intrigues you enough to pursue an online relationship is difficult. Once you have found that person you need to revisit the age old issues of developing that relationship. In many respects, some may say that online relationships are easier then in person relationships. But, in reality it is pretty much the same, just a little bit more removed. Dating tips are essentially the same, but they are a little more subtle then if you are face-to-face.

Safety

Even if the person sounds fantastic online you must be aware that there are some people out there that are being all you want them to be, but with ulterior motives. The very first piece of online dating advise is to not to give the person on the other end any numbers like telephone or PIN numbers regardless of how good they sound.

Be honest with yourself

Relationship advice is always a bit suspect because we are all a bit different. Dating advice from one person to another only reflects that one person giving the dating advice and not necessarily how it applies to you. Always take advice on dating and apply it, with modification, to who you are. Don’t fudge about who you truly are, it will only come back to haunt you later on.

Slow and steady

One dating tip for a quality online relationship is to take it slow. Some might more aptly call this dating tip the restriction of to-much-information (TMI.) You do not need to have an online relationship develop 100 percent in one or two weeks. Let the personal information out slowly. A little mystery will go a long way to building the relationship.

Inflection

This particular piece of online dating advice is one item that requires a bit of work. Voice inflection when online is lost. Inflection is one of those things that we really take for granted. Quite a bit of meaning is lost without it. If you are sarcastic (like me) you can quickly lose somebody on the other end if they don’t know how the words are intended. This is one of the reasons that the LOL and smile face type notations have come about. The problem is, many people find these notations a bit “cutesy.” The online dating advice here is to use words to explain your inflection rather then symbols. So, if sarcastic, simply insert (sarcasm) into the text or use uppercase (OH BOY!!!) for very happy or (OH BOY) for can you believe what he did.

Conversation

Most people say that the art of conversation is dead. In a certain sense this also applies to online dating. Using text abbreviations and assumptions make online relationship building even more impersonal then it already is. This particular piece of online dating advice could be applied to regular relationship building as well. Use simple but descriptive whole worlds to describe what you are discussing. The right word will say quite a bit about who you are. For example: I like kayaking because of the way the paddle slips into the calm water works better then paddling is relaxing. You will come off as a bit more refined rather then just another person online.

Don’t impose

This is perhaps the hardest piece of advice for dating online to get used to. It is so easy to use a word that imposes a thought, belief or need onto another person without even knowing that you are doing it. If there is one thing that will stop an online relationship dead in its tracks it is imposing yourself on another. Once your online relationship progresses a bit you may loosen up a bit with this piece of relationship advice but until then always defer to the other person in the way you phrase a sentence. Make sure you make it known how you feel, but be sure that the wording reflects the other person’s ability to disagree or agree.

Be positive

Nobody likes a “gloomy Gus” when they get online. They really don’t want to be in an ongoing relationship with such a person, unless they happen to be a gloomy Gus. Stay up beat when you are writing with your online friend. Sure, everybody has their down days, and that is fine to share. It shows that you are becoming comfortable with that person. If there starts to be a pattern, however, you may want to assess what is going on with yourself personally or with a friend but there is really no need to share it online. If your assessment leads to a life change for the better…well, that is a great thing to share. Relationship advice or not, good news is a turn on for most.

Be open ended

Just about everybody has heard the phrase “leave them wanting more.” This holds true for online dating. You might think about your daily online conversations or your longer term relationships as a multi-course dinner. Always leave the person salivating for the next course. One of the better ways to do this is ask a question or two that requires a little thought or research. This will let them have something to bring to the table for your next conversation. This would also apply to you. Indicate that you will look into something and let them know what you find the next time you write.

Meeting for the first time

The big piece of online dating advice here is to meet in a busy place. All the online chat in the world won’t substitute for the first meeting and a true assessment. Try to stay relaxed. Listen, but be able to carry the conversation. Stick to areas where you can find help quickly. Call me a bit of a cynic but safety first.

Most importantly be yourself

How many times have you heard that one? Fortunately or not, the statement does ring particularly true for online relationships. A certain amount of “you” will seep into the online relationship whether you like it or not but try for being true to yourself all the time. Faking who you are will doom the relationship, unless you really didn’t want an online relationship in the first place. If you swear quite a bit in life, go for it (just use symbols so as to not offend to much.), if you happen to be one of those folks that dots their “I’s” with a heart go for that as well. Be who you are and the need for online relationship advice will go away fairly fast.

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A Dating Guide for Women: "Man Talk" Translation

I've seen this article in yahoo by David Wygant about dating tips that would be helpful especially for us girls, I enjoyed reading this, I hope you could enjoy as well... :)

When you first look at a man and a woman, you are able to notice the subtle differences between the sexes. It is when the two sexes communicate with each other, however, that the differences become truly glaring. This is because one is speaking "he talk" while the other is speaking "she talk."

Where this difference really becomes a problem is when you are in a relationship, and you need to know how to combine "he talk" and "she talk" into "we talk." So I feel like it's my job as a man and as a dating coach to help women learn how to understand "he talk" (or "man talk" as I like to call it), so that they won't need to hire a translator to understand what men are saying.

Women want men to express their feelings. They complain, "Why can't he just say he loves me?" or, "I wish he would just compliment me more."

What you need to pay attention to and realize, though, is that men do tell you they love you and compliment you... they just do it using their own language. Men, in fact, sometimes don't use words at all when they are communicating with you.
This will help you understand men's verbal and non-verbal language.

Here are 10 things that men say and do, and what they really mean:

1. He starts talking about how crazy all his single friends lives are, and then he tells you that he doesn't miss it at all. What most women will think if they hear this, is that he misses those days. This is not true. He says this because he is looking for confirmation that you feel exactly the same way. He also wants to communicate that he's ready to take the relationship to the next level.

2. Since you recently took him to your family's house for dinner, he can't stop talking about how much fun he had with your brother. What he means here is that he really likes your family, and wouldn't mind being a part of your family.

3. He teases you about things like how clumsy you are or about how you put smiley faces in every one of your emails. What he's really telling you when he does this is that he really likes you a lot. Remember that men are just giant boys... we tease the ones we love and ignore the ones we don't.

4. A man tells you he needs his space. So what does this mean to you? It means that you need to ignore him and not call him. Men love the chase. By not calling him, he'll start calling you and wondering what happened.

5. A man says that he really wants you to meet his parents. What does this mean in man talk? He's telling you that you are his girlfriend, and that he is ready to take it to the next level by getting you involved with his family. This brings us right to the next bit of man talk.

6. When a man calls you and says, "I want you to meet my friends on Friday night," this is as big as meeting his parents. He's introducing you to his pack. It means that he thinks you are attractive and sexy, and he wants to show you off to his friends.

7. After sleeping over at his house several times, he tells you that the next time you sleep over you should bring some things to make you feel more comfortable and a change of clothing. In man talk, that is basically telling you that he's wondering what it would be like to live with you. He also wants your things around.

8. You have plans with him on a Sunday, and you find out that he passed up floor seats to his favorite basketball team to keep those plans with you. What does that tell you in man talk? It tells you that he's hooked... and that you are his girlfriend.

9. He is watching one of your favorite shows on a night you're not together, and he calls you afterwards to talk about it. In man talk, what does this mean? By doing this, he's telling you that he pays attention to you, and he's interested in learning more about you and sharing more things with you. Men generally do not choose to watch "Project Runway" on their own. If we're watching your TV shows, we really like you.

10. He tells you, "I've cleaned today." What this means in man talk is, "I spent the day doing something I dislike more than anything." You need to realize that when a man says this to you, he really likes you. To most men, cleaning the house is just about the worst way he can spend a day.

Once you understand the hidden language and actions of man talk, you'll become far more secure in your dating and relationships. So the next time you go over to your man's house and he looks at you and says, "I cleaned today," you'll know that he really meant to say, "I must really like you, because I can ignore my mess most of the time."

Maintaining a Relationship

-mydearvalentine.com

Healthy relationship would help in the growth and development of an individual and would also help a person to enjoy life.

The responsibility of Maintaining Healthy Relationship does not lie only on the shoulders of man or woman alone, but it is the duty of both the individuals involved in a relationship.

Given below are some tips on Maintaining Healthy Relationship, which are:

Spending time with each other. Realizing your partner’s shortcomings and boosting him/her in whatever he/she does. Having patience to listen to your lover’s problems. Effective communication. If you realize that your relationship with your beloved has gone stale, then make efforts to re-kindle the passion of love. Keeping a positive attitudewhile discussing matters. Supporting each other in every sphere of life. If there is any difference of opinion then instead of arguing try to explain to your sweetheart your point of view. Understanding each other’s needs. Trying to do the best of one’s ability to fulfill each other’s needs.

Being Friends with your EX

i've been browsing the net and founded some tips on how to be friends with your ex. Making your ex as a friends is hard especially if you had a terrible break up.

Be Patient

All changes in life require time. It can be very hard to get over the anger and trauma and upset of a breakup. Don't expect it to happen right away even if you both want to be friends. Give yourself some healing time first.

Going out with Ex

I went out with my Ex after 6 months,and she told me stories of "friends",that stayed over at her new place.Guy friends.And the dates they had.It just hurt me more.I found out(too late) that she's not breaking my heart any more I'm doing it myself by trying to stay friends.I knew all along that I wanted more than that,but even her telling me she didn't love me like that didn't stop me from trying.

It may never happen

sometimes you may not become friends again. he might learn to get over it except the fact he may fall in love with a differnt girl and you might be just a bug on the windshield of his life. dont let this get you down flirt with other guys and make sure he sees if hes going to hurt you dont let him see it your allowed to flirt but remember he can to I know this is very disapointment but remember there are other guys.

Give it time

I have been able to be great friends with some of my exs. We're even able to share some stories and experiences that happened after our break up. This didn't happen overnight, it took at least 1 yr before we could start talking like this and it was even rough once we reconnected. But if the desire to remain friends is there, then this is possible. Now my exs are the some of the best relationship advisers I have since they know exactly how I am.

Don't Compare Past to Now

All relationships change over time. You grow, you mature. Don't compare what you had before with what you had now. It's like comparing elementary school with high school. They're simply different things. Find joys in what you have now.

-romanceclass